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When your reality conflicts with what God said…

How many of you are in a transitional phase of your life? You’ve received a word from the Lord and you are waiting for it to manifest.  The reality of your situation is not lining up to what was spoken.

You’re waiting on God, but my question is: How are you waiting? 

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Let’s consider, two examples:

God spoke a word to Abraham that He will bless his seed with land. He said that all the families on earth would be blessed through him. He told Abraham that he could count the stars in the sky and that’s how many descendants he would have. Abraham and his wife, Sarah, were wondering how when they didn’t even have a son to begin with. Also, he and his wife were very old, well past child bearing age. Abraham’s reality didn’t line up to what God said. God’s word came to pass. Abraham was 100 when Isaac was born. Even though, He didn’t understand how. He believed God and it was counted as righteousness. However, there is a twist. Abraham and Sarah moved ahead of the Lord and made different plans. they believed what He said, but thought they would help Him. You see, they didn’t have a seed. So Sarah told Abraham to sleep with Hagar, her maidservant and have a child. He did. And Ishmael was born. Even though Abraham now had a son, he was not the son that God promised. Isaac was the promised seed. God’s word still came to pass. Read the account at Genesis 18-21.

This is a very relatable story and a prime example of reality not lining up to what God said. But with patience, and standing still we will see God come through. He knows the plans that He has towards us.

Let’s also look a the Israelites in the wilderness. The Lord had just rescued them from Egypt.

The Lord told the the Israelites that He will give them Canaan as the Promised Land. Read the account here at Numbers 13-14. He freed them from Egypt and they were witnesses to many miraculous signs and wonders. They saw His glory in Egypt and the wilderness. He went before them as a pillar of a cloud in the day and a pillar of fire at night.

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The Lord said for Moses to send out 12 leaders from each tribe to spy out the land of Canaan. They went and spied on the land for 40 days. They came back with conflicting reports. 10 of the leaders thought the land was impossible for the Israelites to capture. They saw the men in Canaan as being too powerful for them to overcome. Two of the leaders thought it was very possible because God was on their side. They all received the same word, but saw the situation differently. You know what the difference was? It was their faith. Their trust in God. Who believed His word? They all received it. But who believed it? It was only 2 of them, Joshua and Caleb who said that they could, “certainly conquer it.” They told the people not to be afraid because the Lord was with them. That is what faith looks like. The situation may appear to be impossible. It may look quite bleak, but if the Lord speaks a word you can count on it.

God sent His word forth.

What do we know about the word of the Lord? We know that it says in Isaiah 55:11, that His word will not return to Him void and will set out to accomplish the purpose for which it was sent. This means when God speaks a word to us, we can believe it.

The problem comes when we are looking at our circumstances. Our reality and day to day isn’t lining up with what God said because what He said hasn’t manifest in the natural yet.  The reality is conflicting to what was spoken. This requires great faith. It requires us walking by faith and not sight.

I will share 4 ways that can help you to walk by faith:

  1. Read the examples in the bible. The word of God is full of examples of men and women getting a word from God and seeing it manifest. In some cases it happened right away and others it didn’t. Read examples such as Abraham and Sarah with the promised seed, Mary with the promise of giving birth to Jesus, Noah with the promise of a flood, Joshua with a dream that came to pass, and David who was anointed as king, but it didn’t manifest until he was an adult. They are among many others.

  2. Look at what God has already done for you. God is working on our behalf daily. It’s important to recall what He has done for you. If you get stuck, while you are waiting on a word to manifest, think back to the things that happened in the past. think about your experience with God. Did you have an answered prayer? Did He heal you? Did He wipe out a bill for you? Did He give you favor in a particular situation? God does things in such a way that you cannot deny that it was Him. He will not let you boast on yourself or give His glory to another. You know the things that He has done. Keep those in your mind. If He has done it before, He will do it again.

  3. Listen to testimonies. You have your own testimonies and that is what I was speaking of in number two. But, also, the testimony of others can truly build your faith. It shows you that you are not alone in things that you go through. It also shows you that God is still moving. He is moving, even as you are waiting. You see the amazing things that He is capable of. You hear the testimony and something wells up inside of you. You praise Him for what He did for someone else.

  4. Pray. Yes pray. Prayer and developing an intimate connection with the Lord is paramount. Once you start to seek Him daily in prayer, your faith will build. Once you start to communicate with God you will learn the many ways that He speaks to us. God reveals things through prayer as well. Pray and then learn to sit quietly in His presence. This takes time and is not easy initially. But very worth it in your walk with God.

 

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As I mentioned earlier, the Israelites were walking by sight and not faith, despite the experiences that they had with God. They had testimonies of His greatness and the wonderful things He did for them. He sustained them in the wilderness. He fed them with manna falling from Heaven. Fresh manna daily. They couldn’t store it up, because they had to depend on Him daily. Just as we do. As we should. That’s a miracle. They didn’t go hungry and He was with them daily. His cloud followed them by day and His fire by night. He led them. They knew what He was capable of. They started complaining about the manna. Lord help us. We are not so different today.

Their unbelief came with consequences.  They didn’t believe Him.  Yes, they had to wait. But, how did they wait?  With murmurs and complaints the entire time that He was sustaining them and teaching them. He gave them laws during this time among other things. At the end of the day, they were unable to enter into the promise land because of their unbelief. (Number 14: 20-23) The funny thing is, they would say that they believed and would do all that God said to do, yet their actions didn’t line up with that. A lesson for us today, for sure.

Without faith it is impossible to please God. (Hebrews 11:6)  Catch that?

What makes it hard is all the other voices we hear. Not anything spooky. I mean, our own voice, the enemy, our friends, etc. We have to learn to drown out the noise. A great way to do this is watching what we take in. What we listen to. What we watch. If we are spending more time daily with anything and everything but God, we will miss what He is saying. It’s more than just going to church on Sunday. It’s deeper than that. It takes pressing into Him. He says seek and you shall find. (Matthew 7:7)

When doubt enters in, rebuke it. When negative thoughts come, rebuke them and replace them with positive thoughts. The word says we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5) This is an all day, daily thing. I say this because thoughts will come. You will look at your situation and thoughts will come, words and actions even. But make a practice of taking them captive.

Speak life into your situations: Speak these affirmations, depending on the situation: I am the head and not the tail. I am a lender and not a borrower. By His stripes I am healed. I am the righteousness of Christ. God will perfect that which concerns me. All things will work for the good of those who love God and called to His purpose. I am called according to His purpose and things will work out for me. God is not a man that He could lie. What He says will come to pass. God says His word will not return to Him void. It will do what He purposes for it to do. God will never leave or forsake me. God knew me before the foundation of the world. God is my provider. In all my ways I will acknowledge him and he will set my path straight. There is nothing taking God by surprise. He knows all things. I can trust the Lord in my situation.

Say things like that. That’s the sword of the Spirit. The word of God.

I am very practical when it comes to this because I go off of my experiences. I have had many situations where a word was spoken over me and I look around and I don’t understand because my situation looks nothing like what was spoken. I have tried to take matters in my own hands as well many times because the Lord didn’t move when or the way I thought He should.  I think of the scripture in Proverbs 14:12 that says, “There is a way that seems right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.” This scripture is repeated at Proverbs 16:25.  We can’t just go our own way and think all will be well. It won’t. I believe the word of God. If you are a believer, you must act like it. Not in word only, but in deed. In your actions, even your thoughts.

God doesn’t move on our timetable. But He is always right on time. I know it sounds like a cliche’, but it is very true. You’ve had your experiences. What is different about this one that you’re in? Is God different? No. The word says that He is the same yesterday, today and forever. (Hebrews 13:8) So If He isn’t different, why can’t you trust Him? Yes, you find yourself in a tough situation. You may have been prophesied an answer. You may have been prophesied something amazing for your future or perhaps your spiritual gifts. You may look and say, “When Lord?”, “How Lord?”  And Glory to God because even in the waiting, He will sometimes reinforce what He said, so you know that He does, in fact hear you. It can come through someone else, a dream, the written or spoken word, or directly thru your spirit.

He speaks to you. But are you listening? Remember His thoughts are not your thoughts and ways not your ways. He may not move the way you want, or when, but again, He IS moving. He loves you with an everlasting love. Don’t doubt Him. You can stand on His word trusting that it will come to pass.

Trust God even when His answer is wait.

What are some ways that you stand on your faith, even when your reality says something other than what God said?

 

Where we are weak…

God is strong. 

The Lord says that where we are weak, He is strong.

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“Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.”

‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭12:9‬ ‭NLT‬‬
 “So be strong and courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord!”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭31:24‬ ‭NLT‬‬

When do you actually find out how strong you are? When do you find out what you’re made of? How much can you endure? 

It’s through trials and tribulations that we all face in the world. 

I was sitting outside this morning enjoying my coffee and reflecting on this season of my life. 

I was reflecting on the loss of my mom last year, suddenly from a heart attack.

I didn’t understand. That was such a hard time for me. Do you think it’s easier to lose someone suddenly or watch them slowly slip away? 

Think about it…

I think about it and I wish I had more time with my mom. I would not want to see her “wasting away” but I definitely wish she was still here. We are selfish too, you know. 

We want what we want. We want who we want. Sometimes our loved ones want to go. Sometimes they are tired.

In the case of my mom, I felt, in retrospect, that she knew that she was leaving us. She said her goodbyes. How do people know?? I don’t know. But she did. 

The last time I saw her felt like a “goodbye”, she told me how proud she was of me and how much she loved me and that she knew I would continue to do well in life. She looked me in the eyes and was extra “loving”  My mother was not like that. She didn’t say, “I love you” often at all. And that was ok. It was normal. But there was more said and I left there feeling amazing at how she spoke to me. I felt like a little girl hearing from your mom how proud she was of you. I joked with her how she was laying it on thick LOL and I would be there to pick her and dad up Monday because they hadn’t been to my new salon since it was finished. They saw it a few times while it was being worked up and everything .

We made a date. 

That day never came. She passed away 4 days later from that conversation.

That same year in September, towards the end of the month, I felt a lump in my right breast. I was alarmed. I was in the shower and something made me check. It wasn’t a regular routine for me. Let me tell you though. As soon as I felt it, I instantly knew it wasn’t right. It wasn’t just fibrous tissues. I hoped, but something inside of me said otherwise. 

I called my Gynecologist. I saw her in October. She wanted further examination. She wrote me a referral for a mammogram. It would be my very first. 

I made that call after my 40th birthday party. I didn’t want to deal with it. I went for my mammogram. It came back abnormal. Then there were more tests. Ultrasounds and biopsies. 

All of which were abnormal. Hmmmm is this really happening?? That is what I wondered. 

After it was all said and done, I was diagnosed with Breast cancer. Initially they thought stage 2b before surgery. After they opened me up they discovered so much more disease and I was officially stage 3b. What? How? Why? 


The doctors said coming in October versus November would not have made a difference. From the size and spread of the tumor, it was inside of me for awhile. So during this time, my mother in law was hospitalized and my father. They both had major surgery. I didn’t want to tell them what was going on with me. 

Christmas Day was spent going to the hospital visiting them both. All the while knowing I had cancer, but didn’t want to tell them. 

I kept it under wraps and told my spiritual mom, spiritual sisters and natural sister. I slowly started to let it be known. I needed prayer. I needed strength.

My dad was also diagnosed with liver cancer. He currently is fighting that cancer which is stage 4 and spread to his bones. God help us. 

I say that you never know how strong you are until you go through. 

My life has been turned upside down. Yet still I stand! 

I am thankful to God for His mercy and peace. He has given me peace in the midst of this storm. 

“Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him: but I will maintain mine own ways before him.”

‭‭Job‬ ‭13:15‬ ‭KJV‬‬

Trials and tribulations do not have to be the end.

We will face trials in this world. No one is immune to them. Jesus was heavily persecuted and said that we would be as well. My trial may not be yours; however, it doesn’t diminish yours. 

We all share this human experience, meaning we experience similar issues. Issues that cut through race barriers. Issues that cut through religion and sexuality barriers. We are human. We are in a world where food that is meant to give us nutrition is killing us. That’s another story altogether smh.

I want to encourage you today that God never intended for us to live this way. He doesn’t want us suffering like we are. He loves us. He desires us all to be saved. He desires us all to come to an accurate knowledge of who He is. 

Death is not the end. Not if you’re saved. Jesus has Resurrection power! Hallelujah!


John 5:28-29, NKJV. “Do not marvel at this; for the hour is coming in which all who are in the graves will hear His voice and come forth – those who have done good, to the resurrection of life, and those who have done evil, to the resurrection of condemnation.”

I encourage you to live your life and enjoy it daily. I encourage you to get to know God. I encourage you to do things you love and be around people you love. I encourage you to be selfish with yourself sometimes. Understand how important time is and how you can’t get it back. Don’t allow people to waste it. Spend time with who you want. Be genuine in your dealings with people. Trust that God will set your path straight. Cast your cares on Him. Don’t live your life frustrated . Remember that we all have choices. We just have to deal with our choices, whatever that may be. 

Remember to be kind. In a cruel world that is rare, but people are kind. They’re out here.

 You want love? Show love

You want a friend? Be a friend. 

Let it start with the man or woman in the mirror. Many times we must encourage ourselves. But let’s also encourage others. 

Life is definitely what we make it. It’s about how we react to the situations we deal with daily. What is our thought process like? You know thoughts turn into actions, actions into habits, habits into character… 

I always say the battle is in our minds. Stay strong in your mind. Stay positive. Faith helps with this. Trying to go at it alone without God seems daunting to me. We all need hope. Without hope what’s the point of it all? 


What do you believe in? Trust in? It must be greater than yourself? Right?

 Take the limits off God! We’re limited. He is not. 

Regardless of what life throws at me, I know the Lord will never leave nor forsake me. I believe that! That’s real to me. My hope lies with Him. 

I love you for taking the time to read my blog. I truly love writing and expressing myself this way. This is healing to my mind and spirit.

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