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The Lie We Tell Ourselves

 

The Lie

 

Everyone lies in one way or another. Small lie, big lie, white lie, red lie ( I just threw that one in there) When speaking on lies, people say things like, “It was just a small white lie” or “It wasn’t that big of a deal. You know it’s true.

When we say we don’t lie, we are in fact lying.

We can definitely be someone who keeps it real, and on the up and up for the most part. Yet even when trying to protect someone, we may tell them a different truth to not hurt their feelings.  We may lie and tell our children that there is a Santa Clause and Tooth Fairy. Innocent right? Sure, but it isn’t true. We may lie when scared as Sarai was when God called her out on her lie. He asked why did she laugh when He said that she would have a child, and she said that she didn’t laugh. She absolutely laughed. (Genesis 18: 9-15) So she lied.

We lie out of ignorance. We may believe something, but may not know all the facts, so we answer. Like Peter, when he said he would never disown Jesus. Jesus told him that he would and Peter said that he never would. (Matthew 26: 31-35) And of course, he did. In his defense, he truly felt that he wouldn’t. Yet Peter lied all 3 times when asked if he knew Jesus, and he was a disciple! He walked with Jesus. Deep.

Who wants to be called a liar? Not me. That word hurts. As a matter of fact, when called a liar, your immediate response is, “I’m not a liar!”

Children lie often. They are fearful of consequences.

People also lie by omission. I use to lie often by omission. Also, directly if you asked about my business and I didn’t think it was your business.

These aren’t the lies I’m talking about when I say, “The Lie we tell ourselves.”

We need Jesus. Clearly right? We need the Holy Spirit to help us.

 

 

Lies are comfortable.

 

 

To the Believers

The lie that I’m speaking of is that we don’t have to be sanctified to God. That’s a lie we tell ourselves. That is a lie from the pits of hell! Truly. We tell ourselves that we can live however we want. We are still saved by grace and loved by God. Yes we are, but where are you on your journey with God? How’s your mindset? How’s your peace? Your joy? Your abundant living? How is everything going? Because that comfortable lie will have you far removed from God. That comfortable lie will have you living like the people of the world, and saying “God knows my heart,” but making no changes whatsoever. [bctt tweet=”Yes, you are saved by grace. And I’m talking to my saved people right now, but you can’t take God for granted.” username=”AuthorTTucker”]

You do know that God says that you must die to sin? Right? Read Romans 6.

 

Sin will be your master. You may think you can control it but it will control you.

I remember thinking I could smoke my weed because I had a legal card and I had rules for myself. I wouldn’t smoke on bible study days or Sundays. How many know I broke those rules? Sin had become my master and I would try to reason with it. That stronghold was super strong on me. I remember getting up like 6 am one Sunday and literally fought back and forth with myself because I wanted to smoke. Wake and bake as it’s called. Yea, I wanted that. That particular Sunday, church was starting in a few hours, and I couldn’t shake the urge to smoke. It was so strong. I was fighting – battling within myself. I knew it was wrong but my flesh won that fight that morning. “Tara what are you doing?” I would ask myself, but I wasn’t yet strong in Spirit, and there I was drinking coffee and smoking a blunt. That thing had me. I was ashamed. I needed help but it was strong on me. People say weed isn’t addictive. It most certainly is! I went to church still and I cried out of shame, and cried to God, “Help me!!!”

One of the problems, was that I was reasoning with myself that it was ok because I needed it medically. I know there are many amazing uses for the Hemp plant, but when you are smoking weed, you want to keep smoking weed, because it feels good. Then you are smoking when there is no pain. (This is my story. I am not speaking on anyone but me) My medical card said I needed the weed, so I said it was necessary. It was a lie really. I needed God. I needed to truly give myself to Him. He is a Healer. I needed to trust Him with my cares and concerns. My issue at that time was not physical as so much as mental and emotional and the weed kept me calm.

That’s just one lie. I would lie about things to keep up appearances. Babiieeee that is exhausting! Be yourself. Social Media will have you all messed up. So I write about freedom. I write about the freedom of walking in my identity in Christ and in truth. Lies are bondage. Truth is freedom! But freedom, this type of freedom, come with honesty.

Let God be God

 

How many know that God has a peace that far exceeds weed, alcohol or any drug? His peace surpasses all thoughts. The world can’t give you that peace. And the smoking is of the world.

 

Once that stronghold was removed, I went further in God. Hallelujah! I started to hate what he hated and love what he loved. There are levels and we are our own stumbling block. We can pray for something over and over and wonder why it won’t manifest. It could be sin that you are harboring in your life. It could be unforgiveness that you are holding in your heart. Our God is Holy. He doesn’t operate in sin. Many times our blessings are on the other side of our obedience.

God is moving and He loves to give good gifts to His children, but you can be limiting what He is willing to do for you. Think of a parent child relationship. He is our Father. He does discipline us. He also rewards us; however, He is not a genie in a bottle that you can just keep asking for things and make no changes in your life. What does He want from you? He wants your love, worship and obedience. He wants you to listen to Him because He created you and knows what is best for you. He wants you to follow Jesus as the ultimate example of how to live and treat people. He wants you to operate in the Spirit. Flow in your gifts and be a blessing to people. God is into people. The people business, not things, but if you put Him first, He will give you things. He knows the desires of your heart. Things are a perk. Favor is the best!

God does show mercy and we are grateful for that, because we all have fallen short. We can’t do anything apart from Him, but everything through Him, because He strengthens us to do so. (Philippians 4:13)

 

He created us. We are created beings. He is our CREATOR. He is the POTTER. We are the clay.

So let’s wrap this up: What do you think of the most? Things of God? or things of the world? Spiritual things? or Fleshly things? That is for you to answer to yourself. We must check ourselves to make sure we are still walking with God in truth. Let’s not lie to ourselves. If you belong to God you ARE NOT obligated to do what your flesh wants. The Holy Spirit within you will help you. But it won’t force you. This is where people get confused. You have to yield to the Spirit and be OBEDIENT to the Spirit. It is easy to say, “Well God let me.” and “He didn’t stop me so it must be ok.” or “God can take this away from me whenever he wants.”

Yes, He sure can but do you want it taken away? Is that your prayer? Are you working on being kind? Can you be quiet and not have the last word? Are you throwing packs of cigarettes away? Are you trying daily?  I use to throw my paraphernalia in the trash, and sometimes I would go get it out. I was trying. It had me, and at first I was ok with it, but later I wasn’t, when I realized that I was no longer in control of it. Addiction is a stronghold. It can be food, drugs, alcohol, sex, porn, etc. Are you addicted to anything? You don’t have to tell me. That’s a question for you. Bind the strongman. You are not powerless if you have the Holy Spirit inside of you. God says whatever we bind in Heaven will be bound on earth and whatever we loose in Heaven will be loosed in the earth. (Matthew 18:18)

Self-Reflect

Have you told yourself that it’s ok to act a certain way or do certain things because God knows your heart? Are you walking and living as a child of God? When people see you do they know by your lifestyle that you follow God? Or are you compromising? Are you riding the fence? Or being double minded? Don’t believe the lie. Jesus is the truth. Period. If you are for Him, walk in truth and be for Him. (1 John 1:9)   (Colossians 3:5) Satan is a liar! A sneaky conniving liar. He is so subtle with some of them too. You will start to question it like: “Well God didn’t really say this or that?…Or “This is just a principle and it’s not like a law or rule or anything.” I use to say how God made the herbs and it was good. I found a scripture to back it up. It was true, but I was misusing it to suit my way of thinking.  I was comfortable in my lie until it became uncomfortable to me. I answered the call to go higher in God. That meant dying to self. My self will. I had to decrease so that He could increase. Daily! (Matthew 16:24)

Let that be your prayer: “Lord let me decrease, so that you can increase in my life. Father in the name of Jesus I ask that you strengthen me. Lord remove anything that is not of you! Forgive me for ___________________________. I decree that from this moment forward, I will start fresh and new. Help me with my unbelief, and strengthen my faith in you. Rebuke the devourer for my sake. I want more of you Lord and less of me. Get me out of my own way.” in Jesus name, Amen.

It’s a process

Jesus said if we deny Him in front of people then He will deny us in front of His Father. (Matthew 10:33) We as God’s people have been set apart specifically for His use. And yes He does know our hearts, and He loves us. I am so thankful for His love and mercy. We are a new creation when we become saved. The old has passed away. (2 Corinthians 5:17) However, It is a process. You must continue to move forward. I can only speak what I know. I read my word, I pray and I have learned from my experiences and encounters with God.  I am thankful because as it says in Philippians 1:6, “And I am sure that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ” God is not done with any of us.

I didn’t realize the stronghold that was upon me. I was busy in church. I was helpful to people outside of church. I loved God and people. I worked and things were productive there, but my household was in disarray. It wasn’t as peaceful as it should have been. Also, I smoked, drank, had anger outburst, and lacked patience and self-control. For who I was purporting to be, that should not have been the case.  Our Christian households should be together. Our marriages on point, the children being taught correctly. Discipleship starts in the home first. Not outside. I was believing the lie that said to me all was well because I was active in church. People lie in church to themselves all the time. They leave and go back to their life which does not mimic Sunday morning. Being able to walk this thing out forreal is amazing. I am excited. God is good!!

I was finally set free, and now I can truly say that I worship God in Spirit and in Truth.

I want you;likewise, to be free if you’re bound. If you are not where you want to be in God. If you feel that you aren’t progressing, look at your life. Examine yourself.

 

Scriptural references for you: 1 Corinthians 6:11;   2 Peter 1:2-4;   2 Timothy 2:21;   Galatians 2:20

Be Blessed

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The Authenticity of the Writer

Why I write

I enjoy writing immensely. If I could just write and that was all, there would be no issue. Regrettably, that is not the case. Being obedient to the call that the Lord has placed on me is exciting and uncomfortable at the same time. Granted, I have been speaking my mind, and posting scriptures for years on my personal platform. However, using a professional platform to showcase my writing leaves me vulnerable and open in a way that I didn’t feel before. Even so, this is what has been asked of me.

I know that I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. This is not in question. At the same time, I am being pulled to the front for all to see. As a result, I feel butterflies in my stomach after I publish my posts. I wonder if it will be received and if people will actually get it? “Am I qualified to write books as the Lord says that I will do?” These thoughts and more cross my mind. In any case, I believe the word when it says that God does not call the qualified, but qualifies the called. I can’t boast in myself, but in God! (1 Corinthians 1: 27-31)

The power of my Testimony                        

My testimony is powerful and will help many. I believe that with all that is in me. Be that as it may, it will also get me some side eye from the church folk. Yet I must fearlessly forge ahead! In addition, God blesses and adds no sorrow, so it will definitely work out. That is not the issue. He told me that I would have to be bold and courageous for this next season. Strangely enough, I happen to be both bold and courageous LOL. Truly. If you are a follower of my blog or even my personal social media, you can attest to that.

Authenticity is important in the christian walk. I remember being one way at home and another in public. Do you know how taxing that is? I’m sure some of you do. Some of you are that way. I am thankful to be continually pressing forward in the freedom that truth has given me. In fact, being truthful and leaning on God is how I live my life now. Of course that wasn’t always the case, yet I’m thankful to say I’ve progressed in the Lord during my Cancer journey more than I ever have prior to. (Psalm 107:1-2) (image source: Google.com)

My Progression

As a matter of fact, tragedy opened my eyes and ears to see and hear Him. Furthermore, I am home and not running the streets or in the salon from sun up to sundown. Instead, I am with my family. The growth that has been attained in my household is enough for me to shout, “Hallelujah!” Of course nothing is perfect, but let me tell you! The way my husband and I communicate with each other now versus a year ago is amazing progress. We are applying the word to our marriage, and as a result we are seeing the fruits. (Matthew 19:4-6) What gets me the most irritated in my home is not my husband but my children LOL. Discipline and consistency is what I am working on with them. (image source: Pinterest)

Who I’m writing to

I speak and write on these things to be encouraging to the body of Christ, but especially to married women. Consequently, I mostly relate to married women, as I have been married and divorced and married again. I write to the married christian woman who is not where she wants to be in God.

I also relate to women in general who are fighting the good fight of faith! (1 Timothy 6:12)

These women have a past that they need to forgive themselves for. As a matter of fact, they may have a “present” that needs forgiven. A “present,” that is rocky and bound with strongholds. I’ve been there too.

Jesus has already forgiven us, but we need to forgive ourselves and go forth with what He has called us to do. (2Corinthians 5:17) (Ephesians 1:7)

Transitioning

God is calling us higher as a body, and I recognize that. He is moving in a beautiful and miraculous way. The sermons the last few weeks at my church had many confirmations for me. In fact, this past Sunday spoke volumes to my spirit. It was the Spirit of God speaking through Pastor.

The Lord has revealed Himself to me in ways that have blown my mind. For this reason alone, my life will never be the same. He has changed the entire course of my life.

For example, I am a full time homemaker and writer. Who would have thought that would be my life? Not this lady. I just wanted to be in the salon, and write at my leisure as I’ve been doing for years. And not to knock housewives, because my mom was one, but that was not my plan. (Proverbs 16:1)

Still, it has been a great experience thus far. At home and the writing aspect. Of course with the writing, I have to keep learning the professional way to do things to pen a book. In fact, my writing keeps improving every time I sit down and type. Thank you Jesus! I am smiling as I write this because I know what He said to me. The vision is big and I only know in part, yet without the Lord it will not happen. (Proverbs 16:1) (Psalm 127:1)

At this point it’s all about obedience. It’s not about how I feel. All things considered, if you leave it up to me, I would still be in the salon and writing my little tidbits here and there on my facebook page. 

But God!

In conclusion

Finally you guys, I want to thank you. I know some look at me as if I’m crazy walking away from my salon to sit home and write. You know how I know that? Because I see some doing it when I tell them that I am not returning to the salon. They ask how can I leave something that was certain, for uncertainty? I try to explain this faith walk that I am on; however, everyone can’t receive it.

If you happen to know me, and you’re wondering what is going on, I will tell you like this: I am living my life in a way that I never have before. Freely! I am loving myself in a way that I wasn’t capable of before. Truly! In fact, my husband is loving me in a way that I didn’t know was possible. I would tell you that God has been working on me and through me, and I am letting Him. He’s stripped me bare and turned me to the mirror to face myself. Furthermore, I trust God. I am on that staircase walking up when I can’t see the next step. (Hebrews 11:1)

 

 

 

Vegan pepper steak (Seitan)

Ok guys so we are in our second week of Vegan eating in my home and I have just discovered Seitan, which is wheat gluten and the base for some great Vegan “meat.”

It’s packed with protein and if done correctly, taste very good.

My first batch was a fail 🙁😐

But your girl is no quitter! So I dumped it and tried again. 

The next batch was absolutely delicious.

I started with the wheat gluten and mixed my own batch of Seitan. I then simmered it for 45 minutes. This is the result of simmering: 

It was two loaves that I cut in half. I then stored one half and cut the other in strips like this: 

I then mixed soy sauce, paprika and garlic powder and marinated each piece. 

I sat them aside and started sautéing my onions, mushrooms, garlic and peppers in olive oil.

I fried the Seitan in coconut oil. I mixed some corn starch, ginger and water in a cup then poured it over the Seitan and Peppers. I made some brown rice. And here is the result:

It taste really good too. No one in my home have gluten allergies and if you do, I wouldn’t suggest partaking of the Seitan because it is Gluten. I can’t have soy at all so this is a great alternative. (The “Melt” is Vegan butter and taste better than the regular one) 

I thank God for being open to change. I am enjoying the new recipes. Here is another dish that I made with yellow potatoes, veggies and Seitan. 

I feel great by the way 😊

Hope you enjoyed. 

Faith it and you will make it

Have you ever heard the term, “Fake it until you make it?”

Most people have. Do you know what it means?

It means to imitate confidence and competence with an optimistic mindset.  You do this until it comes to pass.  The “faking it” part is acting in a way as if it was already true.

The “making it” part is the hopeful realization that it will come to pass.

You have to believe in yourself even to fake it.

You have to be confident enough to pull it off. You must act the part.

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Faith it and you will make it!

This is the meaning of Faith: “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Hebrews 11:1

Having faith means to hope and also to believe. You can’t “fake it.” Not truly. You can have the appearance of faith to onlookers but you can’t lie to God. Also, it’s pointless to fake faith because what you need to happen won’t happen. You see, the same concept doesn’t work for faith. The whole “pretending” thing.

Yes, I hear you, it’s similar right? In both situations, you are hoping for something that isn’t quite true because it hasn’t happened. The difference with faith is God. We are believing that God is who He says He is, and will do what He says He will do. We are believing in the power of God.

God causes those things that are not, as though they were. So we are trusting and believing God. That is the foundation of having faith. Trusting God. And how can you actually trust God, if you don’t believe He is God? Or that He is able to do all things as He says in His word?

Numbers 23:19 (NKJV)

19 “God is not a man, that He should lie,
Nor a son of man, that He should repent.
Has He said, and will He not do?
Or has He spoken, and will He not make it good?

You can’t pretend to have faith. You just have to have it. you either believe Him or you don’t. I know I make it sound simple. I understand that initially it isn’t simple. But trust me, as you continue in your walk with God, it gets easier.

See for me, my experience is my evidence.

I have experience with God, and that experience has taken me from faith to faith. My faith grows each time.

Abraham never wavered in believing God’s promise. In fact, his faith grew stronger, and in this he brought glory to God. Roman 4:20

 

Faith makes you look crazy. Seriously. You are believing something that looks hopeless and onlookers are saying, “You are crazy to keep believing in a dead situation.” How many can relate?

But believe and don’t waver. Don’t stop believing God.

(As it is written, I have made thee a father of many nations,) before him whom he believed, even God, who quickeneth the dead, and calleth those things which be not as though they were. Romans 4:17

I want to share with you one of my experiences. I have many, and will have many more as I continue in my walk with the Lord.

It was about 18 months ago that my husband and I purchased our home. I feel excitement even as I am typing this because God is so good. We were house hunting and we looked at many homes. When we came to this home, I fell in love. It was my home. I saw my family in it. I went to the backyard and I placed my hands on it and decreed and declared it mine, and saying to the Lord that He said that He would give me what I asked in faith and that no good thing would He withhold from me. I believed Him for this house. I walked away feeling very confident. (Job 22:28)

All was going well. We put our offer in. I kept telling the realtor that this house was going to be ours. I said to him, “What’s mine is mine, and no one can take it from me.” He would smile and look curiously at me. I enrolled my children in their new schools with only a purchase agreement. We hadn’t closed on the home, but to me that was a mere technicality. I started setting up transfers of service and everything.

So after these things had taken place, we received a call saying that our deal fell through because someone came with a cash offer and the sellers were taking it. WOW

True story.

I heard the realtor. I did. But I didn’t believe it…I didn’t receive it. I told my husband that night, it still felt like our home. It didn’t feel like we lost it.  The next day our realtor was very apologetic and said, “These things happen. I have more homes to show you that are equally as nice.”

We looked at a few homes. I was very unenthusiastic about the whole thing. I couldn’t understand. I said, “Lord you gave me peace with this home. I believed you for it and still believe you.”

To make a long story short we received a call saying that the sellers were going with us. Yes! us! He thought they were crazy LOL and at closing their realtor said the same. He didn’t understand the decision they made.  Yet I said, at closing, “What did I tell y’all?”, “What’s mine is mine, and this was my home.” welcome home

I love God! That was a testimony that day and a witness to His goodness. His faithfulness. I am thankful everyday in my home. I know what God can do. I don’t care what a situation looks like. He can turn marriages around. He can deliver from drugs and alcohol. He can heal.

He can do anything.

You just need to go back to the last thing He did for you. And other things that He has done for you. Marinate on that. Whether it’s small or big. Build your faith off of your experiences. There are also testimonies of His goodness that your friends/family members may have. He is the same God.

Believe and confess the word of God over your situation. God says He watches over His word to perform it and that it will not return to Him void.

Look at what the scriptures say at Jeremiah 1:12, Then the LORD said to me, “You have seen well, for I am watching over my word to perform it.” and at Isaiah 55:11, “It is the same with my word. I send it out, and it always produces fruit. It will accomplish all I want it to, and it will prosper everywhere I send it.”

You can see a real move of God in your life if you just believe, trust and have confidence in Him and His word.

His word is true.

We don’t want to “fake it” until we “make it” in our walk with God. We want to truly “Faith it” so we can “make it.” Make it to whatever we are believing God for.

 Without faith it’s impossible to please God. (Hebrews 11:6)

And with faith we must have works. We must act like what we say. We must act on what we say we believe. (James 2: 14-26) Don’t ask God to save your marriage and talk negative about your marriage every chance you get. Speak life into that situation. Speak the Word. If you’re believing God for a job, go apply. Go on interviews. Don’t sit in your home and say things like, “I’ll never get a job”, or “There are no good jobs.” God can do all things, but we have free will. He does work with us and will not force us. He wants to do for us. He knows how to give us good gifts too, the best! But ask, believing that you will receive, regardless of what it looks like. We pray, but we must also speak the word over our situations. Then have patience. Patience in His perfect timing.

I am believing God for my total and complete healing from cancer. I believe Him. I speak healing over myself. I speak His word. All is well with me. I believe God’s report. Sometimes this cancer stuff looks downright ugly too. The side effects of the treatments do a number on me. I say, “This too shall pass.”  This is a chapter of my life, not my entire life. I have so much more life to live. God has shown me things in dreams and visions and prophetic words spoken over me. I believe Him.

They haven’t come to pass yet, so I am not going anywhere just yet.

He is not a man that He should lie.

This entire time since my diagnosis, surgery and treatments, I have been on a faith walk. It came out of nowhere and I didn’t understand what was happening in my life. Diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer. Everything stopped for me. My state of mind is very important during a season such as this. The enemy came with his lies. I rebuked him and continue to look to God. I have to trust God in my finances, my state of mind, my health, my family, etc. So much was affected with me being down. God is my healer. He is my deliverer. He is my provider and way maker. Sometimes I feel really terrible. Sometimes I have pain so badly that I can’t even get out of the bed. But you know what I do? I say, “Thank you Jesus”, and “I bless your name Lord.” I praise Him! I have a prayer room in the basement and when I can’t make it down there, I pray from my bed. I praise Him and I trust Him through my trial. Trusting He will see me through it. Faith that He will never leave me.

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God is real. He is faithful. Make it a priority to go deeper. There is surface faith. The milk. and that is OK if that is where you are, but don’t stay there. We all start there. Babies in the faith.

Babies eventually need cereal, then baby food, and solid food like adults.

Go deeper and get solid food. (Hebrews 5:4)

Faith it and you will see the hand of God work powerfully in your life. Focus on what God says. Don’t focus on the negative things. Your response is what’s important. Exercise faith. If you need more faith, ask God. Ask Him for whatever you need. (Matthew 7:7-12)

Remember that no weapon formed against you shall prosper. They may form, but they won’t prosper. Don’t focus on the weapons. Speak against them. The enemy is a liar. remember that. Don’t compare yourself with anyone else either. God is not partial. What He does for one, He can do for another. He deals with us differently too. He knows where we are. He knows what we can handle. If you’re a parent with more than one child, you know this to be true with your own children. We love them all, but based on who they are as an individual, we deal with them accordingly to who they are and what they need specifically. For example, I may have a child that is more responsible when given assignments, and can handle a lot at once. I know how much I can give to them. I may have another who is the opposite, so I know the load that I can give them. I deal with them accordingly but loving them both.

Comparing yourself will only have you stagnant in your walk. It may cause you to murmur and give an open door for  the enemy. Don’t go there.

Look at God. That’s it. Be Free! Faith in God frees you from the bondage of worry. Don’t be bound.

There is power in the name of Jesus. Believe it!

Jesus said at Luke 18:8, “…when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on earth?” That’s deep!

Will He? You can’t speak for me, nor I for you. We must all work out our own salvation.

I hope this encourages you.

Walk it Out