Identity Crisis of the Christian

who are you

Who or what gives you your identity?

I will say that our identity is shaped when we are young. The environment that we grow up in. Our parents are the first examples we see on how to live and what type of person to be. They teach us our values. They show us what love looks like, and teach us responsibility. We may also get negative examples. Everyone was raised differently. For example, some may get teaching on hate. Hate for others and often times self-hate and low self esteem.  Getting called names as a form of emotional abuse. Some grow up with sexual and/or physical abuse. This will all play a part in what type of adult you will be. Imagine going through all the rough stuff in a christian household.

How does that shape your identity? How do you look at God?

If you are a saved, born again christian, do you know who you are in Christ?

Having a strong sense of who you are in Christ will give you confidence. It will help you walk in the authority that God gives you.

When you get saved you become a new creation. (2 Corinthians 5:17) Spiritually you are different, and as you grow it will manifest in your thinking and actions. God will start to strip away the layers of hurt you may have experienced as a child, and even as an adult. He will build your trust. He shows Himself first to you as a Father.

So you are now baptized and possibly (hopefully) Holy Ghost filled. All is well!

Not so fast. Getting baptized and even filled with the Holy Ghost itself doesn’t automatically change your behavior.

A relationship with Jesus does that. How do you grow to have this type of relationship with your Lord and Savior?   It grows as does with any relationship. It takes effort. A friendship, a courting, and a marriage takes effort. You must work it for it to work. You must get to know the person by talking with them. Spending time with them. You learn who they are. In the case of Jesus, you have the bible. Read it. Study it. Meditate and ponder over it. Pray, pray and pray again. Go to a bible teaching church and hear the word. Focus on the Lord and what the Word says. Don’t focus on people. They will stumble you. They are imperfect as you are. But do get involved with friendships with people who are living right and have a right relationship with  the Lord so that you can learn from them. Be around Saints that you want to be like. If you are doing the best in your circle that isn’t good. Who are you learning from?


circle of friends


Knowing who you are in Christ will help you approach your Heavenly Father boldly. He says to come boldly to the throne. (Hebrews 4:16)  You don’t stress about things knowing your Father has you. Knowing His love for you and that He will never forsake you. Yes you can have moments of fear. You can have moments of stress, of “Lord what is going on?”, Just don’t stay there. I believe in allowing yourself to feel. Don’t suppress your feelings. Don’t hesitate in asking God questions. He is your Father. Talk to Him. Keep it real.  He knows anyway. But He wants to know that you trust Him enough to bring it to Him and to ask Him for help. I feel that way with my children as well. I watch them and I don’t call everything out. It feels amazing when they come to me, and share; or perhaps ask my advice and help. God wants that as well. It shows your relationship. It’s very unrealistic to tell someone not to fear, or even to question God. Have you read the bible? There was fear going on. They were human beings. There were questions being asked.  I love the bible because there are many stories that we can actually relate to today. See God showed that part, and then He showed how He answered them, delivered them and they could trust Him. He can and will do the same for us.

Knowing who you are in Christ increases your faith. When you know that He is your Father, you talk to Him as a father, as a dad. You do this throughout the day too. You don’t fall apart every time the enemy comes, Because he does come. You understand who you are and what authority your Heavenly Father has given you.  (Luke 10:19)

You may not see your way out of a situation. That’s OK. We walk by faith and not sight. We trust that God is who HE says HE IS. If we trust that, knowing that He cannot lie. (Numbers 23:19) ALL WILL BE WELL!

1 Peter 1-16 NLTFor the Scriptures say, -You must be holy because I am holy.-

You live right. Holy. Consecrated. You do that out of love and reverence for the Father. Yes we have freedom in Jesus Christ. We absolutely do, but do we misuse that freedom because we have it? God Forbid! (Romans 6: 1-2)

Lets get into the word to see what it says about us and who we are in our Creator, Our Heavenly Father, Our Lord and Savior, Our King and Master. the Author and Finisher of our faith! He who knew us before the foundation of the world. I will include some reference scripture below. You should copy them and read them aloud to yourself. Be confident and walk in boldness!

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Reference Scriptures: Who are we in Christ?

2 Corinthians 5:17 – Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

1 Peter 2:9 – But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.

Galatians 2:20 – I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

John 15:15 – No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you.

John 1:12 – But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.

Romans 8:17 and if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him , that we may be also glorified with him .

Colossians 3:3 – For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.

Galatians 3:26 – For in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God, through faith.

Romans 8:1 – There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 3:20 – But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ.

1 Corinthians 12:27 – Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 – Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

Ephesians 2:10 – For we are God’s masterpiece, created to do good works which God prepared in advance for us to do.

Ephesians 4:24 – And to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.

John 3:16 – For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.

6 Comments Add yours

  1. janet platt says:

    I am sooo very PROUD OF YOU!! I love you soon much. I thank GOD for how you are allowing HIM to reveal HIMSELF to you and PREPARE you for the work in the KINGDOM. GOD looks for our AVAILABILITY not our ABILITIES. DAUGHTER I must say that you AVAILABILITY to HIS call has made you AVAILABLE for HIS use!!!! I am looking forward to watching and witnessing the PURPOSE OF GOD FULFILLED IN YOUR LIFE AND THE LIVES OF THOSE YOU AFFECT CHANGE IN AS THEY READ YOUR WORDS INSPIRED BY GOD. TO GOD BE THE GLORYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!! PRAYING FOR YOU ALWAYS. LUVU MUCH DAUGHTER. XOXOXOXO

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    1. Tara Tucker says:

      Thank you so much Momma! You are such a blessing to me. I thank God for giving me a Spiritual Mom and spiritual sisters. You have helped me this entire journey. I am excited for where God is taking me. I love you 😘


  2. Angelica says:

    Great post. A relationship with Christ is something a lot of Christians miss. They don’t understand how important it is to have this. Living a consecrated life is also so important. Thank you so much for the reminders. I’m following!


    1. Tara Tucker says:

      Thank you for the comment and the follow!


  3. Chikeitha says:

    Yes, love it because we as people do get caught up with the world and how we see ourselves in Christ Jesus. It’s that moment we have to look in mirror and reevaluate ourselves.


    1. Tara Tucker says:

      Agreed. It’s a constant to look at ourselves. Daily. We can’t let the world define who we are. We are defined by what God says.


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